Daddy Daydreamer

This is where they used to live

I wanted to stand in the same space my parents and brother used to, so I knocked on the door

Two kids sitting on a hill holding hands in winter

The moment I stopped perceiving time as linear, a new world arose.

I jogged toward the little red bungalow. A man washed dishes behind the kitchen window, his silhouette bathed in dim fluorescent light.

This was my parents' home in the early 1970s, before I was born. Mom and Dad pointed it out to me a while ago. At the time, I . . .

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January 09, 2019

Are you ready for Christmas?

I would love to stop feeding the consumerist orgy

Red and green gift boxes

"Are you ready for Christmas?"

I get asked this question often. I ask it, too. Around the holidays, it seems to be a run-of-the-mill inquiry, like "What's goin' on?" or "How are you?"

Christmas seems to be something we "do." We are busy "doers."

When I ask people how they're doing, a very common response is, "Good. Real . . .

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December 21, 2018

A homeless man gave me the gift of perspective

We live in such a connected world, but sometimes I feel it's never been easier to be lonely

Homeless people talking

The door opened to a sidewalk of slush and grey skies. I exited the bus, negotiated my way around some hurried pedestrians, then crossed the road.

I saw him, sitting on his corner. Bank Street and Albert, downtown Ottawa.

Ruddy, pock-marked face, sandy-brown beard. And a smile that stretched from ear to ear. Many people walked . . .

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December 05, 2018

You Help Me Stand Up

A song dedicated to my first-born child

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I promised my older son I'd write a song for him. I hope you like it as much as we do! Made with much love smile


I watch you walkin’ down the street
To catch the bus and all I see
Is a boy who’s full of hopes and dreams
A boy who’s full of life it seems

Now you used to hang off every . . .

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November 13, 2018

Chris Triantafilou taught me about compassion, caring and kindness

Coach "Tri" always had my best interests at heart

University of Waterloo Warrior defensive backs 1994

Chris Triantafilou with University of Waterloo Warrior Football Defensive Backs, 1994

IN THE END, football was just a backdrop for the lessons we learned.

When I found out that Chris Triantafilou had passed suddenly from cancer on October 25, my heart sank.

Coach Tri (pronounced "Tree") was one of the most caring, thoughtful, . . .

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October 30, 2018

The power of hello

How a simple 'hi' can brighten your day

Duck says hello

A simple hello held the power to brighten my day.

I had picked up a prescription at my local drug store when a small child, maybe 4 years old, peeked out from behind his mother's leg. He smiled at me and said hello. I heard him speaking Mandarin earlier, so I smiled back and said "nǐ hǎo."

He laughed a coy but mischievous laugh, . . .

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October 17, 2018

A Beautiful Time

A birthday song for my younger son

Baby sleeping


Today you are 9
I'm feelin' fine
A beautiful time
To be with you
You know it's true

Today you are 9
When you were born
I had sworn
To love you, my son
You know it's true

When I put you to bed
And give you a kiss
Oh, I'll never miss that
I'm lovin' you

I feel your smile in the sun
I feel your pain in the rain
I . . .

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October 03, 2018


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